NLP and personal development as a leader

Undertaking 2 NLP  courses has been instrumental in my development as a leader.

Having been on many courses throughout my career it was an off the cuff remark by a third party that changed my life forever.

I think you would benefit from going on an NLP course, they said. NLP what is all that about was my response at the time. Let’s just say that it may give you the insight into how you do being you! Wow I was intrigued, and at the time life seemed to be doing to me rather than me creating what I wanted the future to be, that’s if I even had a clue what that was!

NLP Pocket Book

NLP Pocket Book

NLP or it’s official title Neuro Linguistic Programming isn’t the most appealing titles and may even conjure up some scientism, that’s fine for now. The interesting thing is there is no user manual for us and most people are blissfully unaware, how we, at an unconscious level direct the outcomes in our lives. Interesting eh. Especially when your leading people and don’t know how you are leading yourself!

My journey started with an practitioner course, where my awareness of internal and external sensory acuity was increased, my noticing of the language patterns I was and others were using and how I could have more influence over outcomes not just for myself but for others and mutually beneficial ones at that. I relished at discovering the limiting beliefs that I had, and prior to the course were not even aware of. Of course there were many, many more learnings and experiences that were hugely beneficial and continue to be so to this day.

The NLP pocket book is available here https://www.revealsolutions.co.uk/coaching-cards-courses-books-resources/nlp-pocket-book/

So if your managing, leading a team, looking after people and what to even more effective in what you do, I strongly advice accelerating your personal growth with an Practitioner course. After all when we grow as a person we grow as a leader.

More information on Practitioner training can be found here https://www.revealsolutions.co.uk/coaching-cards-courses-books-resources/nlp-practitioner/

Details of the NLP Conference in London can be found here https://www.nlpconference.com/

Reb Veale Master Trainer https://anlp.org/search.php?ql=&qn=Reb+Veale&qo=&search=Search&cat=t

Our Intention Focuses Our Attention

Our Intention Focuses Our Attention

Every second of every day we are subject to thousands upon thousands of pieces of information hitting our senses. Our eyes see everything in their sphere of vision, near, far, in front of us, off to the side, out of the corner of our eye. Our ears hear everything, loud, quiet, near and far. High pitch, deep rumbles, everything. And so it goes on for smell and taste and for all that we touch.

What’s interesting is that in this rich soup of available information the human brain focuses on processing a limited number! First approximately 138 and then a further refinement down to  7+/-2 per second per second. That’s still a lot of information!

How and why is this important?

In simple terms, where we place our intention, focuses our attention, in other words what gets through to our brains both informs our map of the world in our heads and provides us with the data to make decisions.

Our ‘map of the world’, what do we mean by this? It’s our internal representation of the world we live in, we’ve taken the information, processed it to make sense of it, and settled on that’s how it is! It’s the reason why two people could go to a football match, watch the same game and broadly come away with the same outcome but have two totally different views on what they experienced. I suppose that may depend on which team they were supporting and the result!

Coming back to making decisions, our actions are dependent on what information we have considered important and relevant, because as our intention focuses our attention, we will not notice or pay attention to all other information. An example of this would be two people out for a walk. One’s intention although going out for a walk for some exercise is important, is intent on catching up with what friends have been up to, they spend time during the walk going through their social media, probably making sure that they keep going in the right direction, avoid tripping or falling over etc. The other person’s intention is to take in as much of their surroundings as they can during their walk. They spend time looking around the fields, watching out for birds and searching out those beautiful wild flowers they suspect are out there somewhere.

Once we are aware that it is us who decides intention, we can be more choiceful with our attention.

The next time someone is speaking to us, it may be worthwhile asking ourselves what’s our intention here, are we fully present in the conversation? Next time we are out, what are we possibly not noticing, that we could be if we choice to be wantonly curious? How much more can we enrich our own model of the world?

Time for a selfie

According to a wave of recent reporting, the prevalence of taking a selfie is utterly staggering: the average millennial will take 25,700 in their lifetime; it is claimed that females aged 16 to 25 spend five hours taking selfies per week; and on average, 93 million selfies are taken worldwide each day.

That’s a lot of studies of self!

Or rather images of our exterior, it’s almost as if humans have become peacocks, displaying ourselves to the world. The questions that come to mind are, ‘does this behaviour increase happiness’? And ‘does it in any way aide self-development’?

For sure they are fun, although we should all take note that as the desire to capture the most exotic of views behind us increases, the number of accidents and fatalities has commensurably increased! But how come we will devote so much time and effort to grabbing a photo and so little time holding up the metaphoric mirror to ourselves and doing some inner reflection?

For millennia, the practices of meditation, quiet reflection and contemplation have yielded great insights and produced some pearls of wisdom; just take a look on Facebook to see the hundreds of great quotations posted daily.  Interestingly, many people are inspired for a short period of time….until the next thing of interest attracts them.

In the land of instant access, instant results, almost instant everything; there comes a price, not in financial terms, but in terms of inner peace and tranquillity. Someone once said to me “if you could bottle peace of mind, you would make a fortune.” Yet peace of mind comes from getting it together with your inner self, taking the time to connect and to communicate well internally, to gain a greater sense of Self and the relationship you have with the world.

Maybe it’s time more people took Real Selfies, but without that selfie stick! J

#RealSelfie

How Compelling are your Objectives in 2016

I was listening to the news the other day when the subject of New Year Resolutions came up, interestingly according to the reporter 80% of those who make  New Year Resolutions either break it or give up on it by the 10th of January. This of course has been long known in the fitness industry and gyms in particular, where memberships and subscriptions are taken out and then hardy used past January.
So why does this happen? Probably because the resolution made is not compelling enough for the person and is overtaken by a more compelling reason to go back to what they were doing! The classic example of this is in weight loss, where there is a desire to lose weight and all the evidence for the person is there i.e. cloths not fitting comfortable, breathlessness under exercise, tiredness, more effort required than before to achieve the same outcome etc. but the person does not do what they committed to doing i.e. more exercise, change diet etc.
So can you make outcomes more compelling for yourself?
Well Yes you can!
Why would you want to do that?
Well in the many clients I have worked with over the years, once we have checked out what they want is definitely what they want, and we have done the ecology checks to ensure that when they get it, it won’t have a negative impact on other areas of their life, making their desired outcome more compelling has in fact ensured their success!
Working with a client to help them alter how they represent their desires, targets and objectives is only a small part of using NLP techniques to assist clients in their lives and businesses.
If you would like to find out more about how we can help you to achieve what you want, then checkout our website www.revealsolutions.co.uk for coaching, Therapy, NLP training and certification, leadership and management development.
Something to try
How do you represent succeeding in achieving something? It may be a picture you can see when you close your eyes, you may here yourself talking it through in the privacy of your head or you may have a feeling that comes on when you think about doing it, or it may be some other way. Whatever way that is, what happens if you alter that representation? i.e. if it’s a picture increase the brightness or bring the picture closer to you.
Happy experimentation

Why every leader should know about Modelling

Leaders must influence; they have the opportunity to make change happen, they often have both connection and power but must be careful on how they use it.
I guess your interest has been captured by the title!
We are all expert modellers, or at least we were! We are born with the innate ability to copy; it’s one of the ways in which we learn as a child. We see those who are around us the most, do things and we copy it, this extends to the way in which we learn language and one reason why a child can learn multiple languages at an early age simultaneously and easily.
I was reading an article on CEO strategy the other day by Roger Martin, a professor at the University of Toronto. In it, a small sentence caught my eye; “everybody watches the leader of his or her organisation. If the leader is successful, everyone will attempt to mimic them”. Never has a truer statement been made and this is where the importance of understanding modelling comes in.

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How is our mental health

I start this blog with a question.  How is your mental health, that of your friends and family and the people you employ?

A staggering 1 in 4 people in the UK will suffer with some form of mental health issue in their lifetime. Next time you are out and about, notice those around you.  Unfortunately, a lot display classic signs and behaviours that indicate an underlying issue.

Could it be that people and organisations are fixated on the wrong things? Could it be that pressure to compare and benchmark against others and other organisations is accelerating the decline of our own health?

What makes people happy? Well there certainly isn’t one universal answer, but I suspect that a lot of people are trying to be happy by achieving what others want them to achieve, having what others have and achieving this through short term activities and actions.

We are and have always been at our most powerful when we are with others, communities, groups, tribes, teams etc. Human beings are naturally communal and the point I am going to suggest is that we are losing touch with that. Mental illness is nigh-on non-existent in some tribes and remote groups in the world, yet has found its way into other cultures as they have been exposed to the “I must be better and/or beat someone else or organisation” culture.

So where is all this conjecture leading, you may ask? Well, we have a responsibility in the workplace to engage with others, to encourage everyone’s involvement and to respect diversity. We also must consider leadership and if we are leading, to be willing to look at our leadership style. There is, in my opinion, a need for empowering leadership and a duty to provide clear vision, values and beliefs of the organisation. That’s what provides purpose and leads to fulfilment when we are part of group that achieves the vision, overcomes the obstacles and finds solutions together. Wages are a given and provide security, while employee benefits only provide short term hits of the feel good factor.

So how is your community, group, tribe or team? Which do you belong to and more importantly, in which are you active? For if we are not active, we are not members, we are voyeurs and likely to be merely taking from it when it suits us! Too many of us can fall victim to that route, yet it is our choice.

So be active, take part. Work collectively and have fulfilment from being with others and achieving something to the common good of all.  Rather than just looking after our own interests; this way,  we are more likely to remain mentally healthier and to facilitate the opportunity for others to be mentally and emotionally resilient also.

Developing Good Leadership

There has been much written on the subject of leadership over the years; authors include well-recognised captains of industry, military personnel and leading training professionals amongst others. At the heart of everything they write, is the desire to help and inspire others to be better leaders and to be able to learn from the articles published.

Like many before me, having bought several of these books and read many online articles; I wonder if I am achieving the same level of success in my leadership as the authors have demonstrated. Clearly I want to, I would not buy the books if I didn’t believe that I would learn from reading them, but is this increase in awareness and additional information the key to my improvement?

I was thinking earlier today, if I read about Jack Welch “CEO of the Century” and I understand both the leadership messages and use the specific examples to inform me of techniques used; will I become a version of Jack Welch? Clearly the answer is ‘no’. Certainly, the new or additional information I have as a consequence of reading will not hurt and will in some way improve my chances of replicating his successes, but I feel there is a lot more to it than that.

The other day I was facilitating a 360 deg feedback for a manager in an organisation with which we are currently working. They were really engaged in the process and keen to identify how they could improve. What was interesting (and frequently is) was the manager’s areas of interest in the feedback; mainly concerned with the doing and achieving in the present job role. I have found this occurs frequently; managers keen to get on and improve their management ability but believing that it is about what you know about a job and techniques that is important and the probable source of their development need.

Let’s look for a moment at a potential succession planning route in an organisation. An individual joins the organisation and does a good job, that often means their work rate is very acceptable, they demonstrate good knowledge of the job and they have a ‘can do’ attitude. They achieve a promotion, perhaps to a supervisory or managerial position. As well as being part of the team doing the task, they now have responsibility to achieve team targets and objectives. The required skill set is already starting to change. What they know is important, but their ability in other areas is more important to their success. What influences their ability?

Is it that people focus on using the knowledge skill set of the job as a manager, the how I would do it or have done it in the past as a way of informing them as to others should do it now. The longer we are ‘off the tools’ so-to-speak, the less relevant our knowledge becomes. It appears that many managers driven by the desire to do well and achieve, are both promoted because of how well they did in ‘the execution of a job themselves’ and also because of the belief within the organisation, ‘if they could have more of the same’ i.e. more people like the promoted person; the organisation will flourish even more! Yet how is this achieved?

By the identification and development of leaders?

We may, on our leadership journey be acquiring further techniques and models learnt from others, read from books or from the provision of leadership and management development training. What may be at least equally important if not more so, is the becoming aware of our own values and beliefs towards others: the very components that create our attitude. Is it the right attitude? And is it resonant with the attitudes we recognise in successful leaders?

Could it be that leadership success is more attributable to attitude than knowledge, that a common factor found in truly great leaders is a willingness to find solutions and a desire to establish and maintain quality relationships in the process of doing so? If this is the case, is it also more important to model their beliefs and values as well as the techniques they use in order to replicate their success?

If you are interested in how to model success in your organisation, including values and beliefs, we have the ultimate modelling course later this year.

Dr Wyatt Woodsmall PhD will be delivering an Advanced Behavioural Modelling workshop with Reveal Solutions here in Gloucester 13-16th Sept 2012 BOOK NOW http://www.revealsolutions.co.uk/shop-nlp-courses-more.asp?cid=11

Wyatt Woodsmall to deliver Advanced Behavoural Modeling training in the UK later this year

What a start to the year!
I am yet again honoured and extremely excited to be able to confirm that the man himself, DR Wyatt Woodsmall Phd has agreed to join Reveal Solutions and deliver module 1 of our NLP Master Practitioner training this Autumn 2012.

Wyatt will be delivering Advanced Behavioural Modelling and will provide a unique opportunity for delegates to be taught by the master himself.

Not only can you book on to probably the best NLP Master Practitioner course being run this year in the UK with not 1 but 2 internationally recognized exemplars delivering training sessions, but there is also the opportunity be able to book each, or both, of these two workshops separately through our website http://www.revealsolutions.co.uk/shop-nlp-courses.asp

We believe that these workshops are going to prove very popular and will be limited to a capped number of places, this is to ensure the best interactive learning experience for each delegate. If you would like to register your interest, please send an e mail with your details to info@revealsolutions.co.uk Priority booking will be given to those registered first

My first blog of the year entitled 2 weeks in and 50 to go covered the subject of what will the year hold for you?

Achievement is driven by making it happen! We set out to get both of these two wonderful trainers involved in delivering an exceptional NLP Master Practitioner training this year in the UK and now its happening. My invitation is make what you want happen for you.

Coaching in Gloucestershire

We attended the Gloucestershire Coaching Network group last night.
Held at the Maxima Forum on Landsdown Road Cheltenham bi monthly we were undertaking coaching practice specifically using two techniques that of The Sedona Technique and Dilts Neurological Levels.
Coaching whether it be executive coaching, performance coaching, life coaching is a powerful tool. Our group consists of coaches working with business, public and voluntary organisations to facilitate personal, management and leadership development.
Our next meeting is the 22nd September and you can book on through the Gloucestershire CIPD website.
Reveal Solutions are providers of Coaching, Leadership & Management development training, psychometric profiling, assessment and development centres